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Happy New Year! I believe many people have already chosen their New Year’s resolutions, even though there is a rumor claiming Dec 21, 2012 is going to be the end of the world. Actually, most people might have experienced that most of their New Year’s resolutions have never been achieved and some people even stopped creating their lists anymore just because of the frustration. But, why? Why do New Year’s resolutions fail? Maybe they’re not realistic goals, maybe it’s due to procrastination. There are some psychological theories behind it, yet I am not going to go through those. I am going to share some steps that might help you make a successful New Year’s resolution based on the Creative Problem Solving skill in our training.

First, please write down all the goals you want to accomplish in 2012. It’s important to write them down instead of putting them in your head. You brain needs to remember and process so much information every day, so write your goals down and put them somewhere you can see them regularly. Here I will suggest you use “I wish…” or “Wouldn’t it be great if…” to start your goals. And remember to defer judgment so that any goals could be included in your list. You need to be honest with yourself.

Second, review the goals you just wrote down, then select some realistic subset for 2012 by checking the three criteria that follow. Go through the whole list using one criteria at one time.

  • ownership : Do you really own the goals? Wishing for world peace might not be something that you could really do much about. If yes, then put a mark in front of the goal.
  • motivation : Do you really want to see it happen? Sometimes it’s not easy to achieve your goals – you need the proper level of motivation to help you push through all the hard work. Losing weight is an example: if you don’t really care about it, then you might not have enough will power to say no to snacks and exercise consistently. If yes, then put another mark in front of the goal.
  • urgency : It’s a list for 2012 – don’t put ‘retirement’ down as a goal if you are only 20. If yes, then put another mark in front of the goal.

At this point, if a goal has three marks it is eligible for entry on your 2012 resolution list.

It’s not done yet. You need to plan for it instead of just writing it down. If you don’t think about how to achieve your goals while you write them, trust me, you will never think about it later and of course you won’t do anything about it. People tend to think they will do it ‘tomorrow’, yet it never really happens, eventually resulting in failed resolutions yet again. So the next step is to draw an action plan for your New Year’s resolution. The question is how?

Here is an action plan template for you…

What goal? What do you need to do? How? Who? Until When? Report to whom?

Here are my suggestions for you for filling out the action plan::

  • What do you need to do: There are many things (sub-tasks) you might need to do first for one goal. Think about it throughly and list them all.
  • How: Write all the steps in different rows, being specific. It’s really important here. The more specific, the more likely it will be executed.
  • Who: It’s an interesting part. Do you think you should do all the things to achieve your New Year’s resolution? Not really, sometimes you do need others’ help.
  • Until when: Don’t write down ‘three weeks later’ since there will always be three weeks later every time you check it. Select a specific date. This will make it easier for you or other people to follow.
  • Report to whom: People all have the inertia to do things, especially when it’s hard work. Asking a friend or family to help you and reporting what you have done to them will be really helpful. If you don’t do it in time, they will grill you on being late, which will push you to keep on track.

Here is a simple example…

What goal? What you need to do? How? Who? Until When? Report to whom?
losing 10 pounds have a exercise plan join the gym near work and find a personal trainer me 1/10 my sister
discuss with my trainer my personal trainer 1/20 me
have a diet plan just write it done and put it in the kitchen me 1/20 my family
Goal #2

Ok! These are my simple suggestions for a successful New Year’s resolution. Hope it’s helpful. Wish you a Happy New Year and successful New Year’s resolution for 2012.

新年快樂!即便有謠傳說2012將是世界末日,相信很多人還是迫不急待的寫他們的新年新希望以迎接嶄新的一年。事實上,很多人可能都有這樣的經歷:每年一開始訂了ㄧ個新年新希望計畫,後來卻什麼也沒有實現。有些希望不是淪為下一年的新年新希望,就是從此從新年新希望清單上銷聲匿跡,因為反正也從來不會實現。有很多討論新年新希望不會被實現的心理學理論,但我並非心理學專家,也不打算在這大談心理學。在這,我只想分享一些在我的創新創意思考培訓中用到的技巧,來協助大家訂製一個較容易成功被實現的新年新希望計畫。

首先,你得先把你想在2012年達成的目標寫下。寫下來是很重要的步驟,不要只放在心裡。寫下來,放在一個你常會看到的地方,做適時的提醒。我建議你用“我希望…”或是”如果xxx就太好了”來開始當一個目標陳述的開頭。特別要注意的是,任何大大小小的目標都可以寫下,畢竟那都是你的目標!你不一定要和他人分享你的新年欣希望,對自己誠實,任何你想要達成的都可以寫下來。

再來,為了讓這2012的新年新希望能被達成,我建議用三個評判標準來檢視剛剛寫下來的這份新希望清單。一次用一個標準來檢視整份清單,檢視完後。在用另一個標準來檢視,如此重複3次。

  • 擁有權: 你是否擁有這目標,當需要執行時,你有充分的決定權。比如世界和平這樣的希望很好,但是你能做的事可能不多。 如果答案是”yes”,那麼在這條目標前畫上個記號。
  • 動機: 你是否有強烈的渴望,願意盡一切的努立來達成這目標。對想瘦身的人來說,若是你沒有真的覺得那3公斤對你來說那麼重要,那麼你可能很難抗拒美食的誘惑或是很難在跑步機上持續半個小時以上。因為你的動機不足,你不覺得達成那目標對你是絕對重要的一件事。一樣,如果答案是”yes”,那麼在這條目標前畫上個記號。
  • 急迫性: 你需要在2012年達成這目標嗎?這是為你的2012訂的新年新希望。如果你現在只有20歲,卻在今年的新希望寫上退休計畫,可能有點太遙遠。會尚失某些的動機性。你可以寫下一些小一點的計畫,如存多少錢,或是買保險等等比較短期,但是卻是可以幫助你未來的退休計畫的目標。
    • 3個標準都檢視後,那些前面同時擁有3個記號的目標就是適合寫到你的2012新年新希望裡的計畫了。但這還沒有結束。除了寫下來,很重要的是還要有個行動方案。相信我,如果你在寫新年新希望的時候沒有一起寫下一個行動計畫,那你以後也不會想要怎麼去實踐這些目標。當然,新希望就永遠只是希望,不會被實現。大部份的人都覺得他明天就會去做些事,但是那永遠都是”明天”的事,年底的時後,只是面對另一次去年失敗的新年新希望,然後用同樣的方法為來年訂一個新年新希望。所以,接下的步驟就是寫一份實現你2012的新年新計畫的行動方案。問題是怎麼寫?

      這裡我提供一個模板給你參考。

      目標 需要做的什麼 執行的步驟 執行者 截止日期 和誰匯報

      關於填寫這行動方案,我有以下的建議:

      • 需要做的什麼: 為了達成一個目標,有很多的子任務要完成. 仔細想想,然後將之全部列出。
      • 執行的步驟: 同樣的,每個子任務下有很多的執行步驟,越明確越好. 明確的步驟是一個關鍵,日後一看不用想能把上去執行的步驟描述要比日後看了還要傷腦筋要怎麼做的更容易被實踐。
      • 執行者: 你可能以為你的新年新希望都得由你來執行。但是很多小細節,其實是需要他人的幫助的。很多你不知道要怎麼做卻又不請求他人幫忙的事就會可能造成計畫一再延宕。
      • 截止日期:這裡請務必寫下明確的日期,不要寫三星期後。因為你每次檢閱都是三星期後,沒有明確的日期,會讓這份行動方案很難被追蹤完成進度。
      • 和誰匯報: 人都有惰性,尤其是面對困難的事。邀請你的朋友和家人一起來督促您,會讓事情被完成的機率大增。

      這裡有一個小小的例子…

      What goal? What you need to do? How? Who? Until When? Report to whom?
      losing 10 pounds have a exercise plan join a gym and find a personal trainer me 1/10 my sister
      discuss with my trainer my personal trainer 1/20 me
      have a diet plan just write it done and put it in the kitchen me 1/20 my family
      Goal #2

      Ok! 這些就是我對一個撰寫一個容易成功的新年新希望的小小建議。在這祝大家新年快樂!也希望2012年底時,大家2012的目標都能順利達成。Happy New Year!!

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